Come As You Are

There's some great stuff in here, both for women and men. I really liked the women-as-default approach Nagoski took - not just because it's primarily a book on female sexuality but also the implied similarities with male sexuality. There's a combination of psychology, mindfulness, media literacy and open body positivity that's absolutely worthwhile, where there's room for everyone in a respectful way.

I really enjoyed Emily's discussions and thoughts on sexuality and what motivates sexual desire in (mostly) cis-women. It was a nice chicken soup read for me during COVID since when I was feeling horribly alone and non-sexy, and has given me a more healthier approach to sexuality beyond just the PIV mechanics of sex.

I do wish the focus had been more gender fluid, and a little less hetero-normative, but I understand you gotta aim for a target market somewhere. I think anyone can benefit from this book if they want to be a little bit more introspective on their own sexuality and what motivates their desires.

The book did begin to feel a little repetitive towards the end, so I sped-read through the last bit. Didn't feel like I could quite claim to have "finished" the book, but not because I didn't enjoy it!